What I treat · Codependency · Oshkosh
Codependency therapy for Oshkosh, Wisconsin.
Codependency, boundaries, and people-pleasing therapy for Oshkosh residents, with Wisconsin-licensed Amber Miller, MSed., LPC. Telehealth statewide, in-person at the Superior office. Most insurance accepted, including BadgerCare and Medicaid.
Oshkosh is a UW-Oshkosh town with a steady non-student population that crosses over into the Fox Cities and Fond du Lac. The shortage of therapists is consistent with the rest of the Fox Valley. Telehealth works for both populations. Many Oshkosh clients book over their lunch hour and we keep the slot semester-to-semester.
What Codependency therapy looks like
Codependency is what happens when your sense of okay depends on someone else being okay first. People-pleasing, over-functioning, the inability to say no, the inability to notice you have a preference, the slow disappearance of you inside a relationship. It tends to look from the outside like generosity. From the inside it looks like exhaustion.
Almost everyone I see for this grew up taking care of an adult who could not, or who would not. The pattern made sense then. It usually does not make sense any more, and yet it is hard to put down because it is most of how you know how to be in a relationship.
How we work on it
This is slower work. We listen for the pattern. We practice, in the room, noticing what you actually want, which is often a piece of information you have not had access to in years. Person-centered work is the spine. Cognitive behavioral tools come in for catching the people-pleasing in the act.
Boundaries are not walls. They are the line where you end and the other person begins. Most of the people I see have to learn where that line is for the first time as an adult.
How sessions work for Oshkosh clients
Oshkosh is too far from the Superior office for regular in-person sessions, so this is a telehealth-only relationship. That works as well for this kind of work as in-person. We pick a regular weekly slot and keep it.
If you are at a college in or near Oshkosh
Oshkosh and the surrounding area is home to UW-Oshkosh. I see students from each, regardless of which campus you are on. Telehealth from a dorm or apartment works the same way it works from home. Sessions are confidential. The full angle on student work is on the college student page.
Insurance and cost in Oshkosh
Wisconsin BadgerCare, Medicaid, Medicare, and most major commercial insurance in Oshkosh are in-network. Out-of-pocket is $125 per 50 minutes session. Full detail on the insurance and fees page.
What to do next
If this read like something you recognize, the next step is to schedule the consultation or intake session. The free 15 minutes consult gives us both a sense of whether we would work well together before you book the first paid session. Text, call, or use the form, whichever is easiest.